I spent all afternoon doing a pretty heavy duty cleaning job (yes this is what I chose to do on my lazy summer afternoon), so I’ve got cleaning on my mind!
It’s interesting because, in the past, I have always been so hyper about having chores schedules created and posted for all to see…I think it was just my “teacher brain” surfacing so that everyone had a job, everyone knew their job, and everyone could be responsible for their job.
Before Greg and I got married, the topic of household duties came up somewhere…I really don’t remember where. It could have been premarital counseling or perhaps just in a casual convo between us or friends. Regardless, I half jokingly (but half pretty seriously) said that I would need to create a chore chart for us so that we take turns doing jobs…and so that I, because I’m sexist and figured guys don’t care or think about doing chores, didn’t get stuck doing all of those things.
It wasn’t that I didn’t believe Greg was capable of doing those things, or that he didn’t care to help…I just always thought “cleaning” or “upkeep” in the house didn’t occur to most men. Again, sorry to generalize…it’s just what I assumed after visiting several male residences in my day.
Anyway. When we originally talked about it, since it was only half serious, I never really did anything about it. We got married, and life as “roommates” began. And it was miraculous how smoothly we each took responsibility for various chores around the house. It somehow just happened. We never really talked specifically about it (Greg do this…Tina do that..) but rather we both knew things we were good at, or didn’t mind doing, and just starting doing them.
It’s been pretty great to have that shared responsibility. Because while I am sexist about guys and their inability to think about cleaning, I am not sexist about the idea that girls should do all the cleaning. Not at all 🙂 Here’s a little run down of how we’ve split up the duties….
Trash and Recycling--Greg takes out the trash almost all the time…there are the occasions when the trash bag is full and he’s not there, so of course I take it out….but I admit, I have left numerous recycling items on the counter for him to take out….opppsie. 🙂
This trash was just after moving in with roommates many years ago...
Cooking–Thank God Greg doesn’t mind cooking. Cause I really don’t care for it. I really thought that once we got married and I had someone to cook for, I would enjoy it more…but that hasn’t happened yet. It’s just not fun to me. It takes too much time and planning (when do I boil the water, and when do I throw the rolls in, oh and the sauce is bubbling over now…ah!). I just haven’t inherited that domestic trait from my mom. I’ll give it a whirl from time to time, but Greg likes it….so I let him take that one over for a majority of the meals.
Mowing–I mentioned in a post months ago that Greg wants to be a “lawn” guy…like he really wants to watch his lawn grow and flourish, so mowing it and taking care of it is part of that. I used to take turns mowing my lawn at my last house and I actually didn’t mind it. So I have been known to mow the lawn here from time to time (especially since I’m on summer vacay and I have time)…but for the most part, The Mr. has it under control!
Vacumming–I’m not sure how this chore became Greg’s….but it is! He is a master with the vacuum and I am always so excited to see the pretty vacuum lines in the carpet. We have several rooms in our house that we don’t even enter…the vents are closed, the doors are shut…we pretend like they don’t exist. But regardless of our lack of using those rooms, Greg gets so into his vacuuming that he takes it for a spin through those rooms nearly every week!
Bathrooms–I have never really minded cleaning a bathroom….some people think it’s super gross, but I don’t mind. Don’t get me wrong…if it was someone else’s bathroom I would probably hate it. But it’s my bathroom and I know the people using those bathrooms pretty well, so I don’t get gaggy or anything.
Kitchen–I actually love cleaning the kitchen. There is such a process for me and I get into such a groove that to me it’s all about checking things off the list: spray down counters, wipe clean, spray with water, wipe, clean stove top, sweep the floor, Swifter the floor, etc. etc. I think the other reason I don’t mind at all is because I’m kind of crazy with the daily cleanings so it never gets out of control and the weekly, hardcore cleaning is pretty quick and easy!
Dishes–Greg does the cooking, I do the dishes! Again it worked out pretty well for us because Greg enjoys cooking and I enjoy doing the dishes….but, I have been known to clear the dishes from in front of Greg before he was completely done. Woopps!
Dishes from same house with roommates, many moons ago!
Laundry–Another thing I thoroughly enjoy. I know, you think I’m crazy. I honestly live for the moment when I know every piece of clothing is cleaned, folded, and put away. This happens once a week and lasts for maybe 30 minutes….but those few moments are just precious to me. Seriously. 🙂 I will admit that I don’t like folding socks….but I either bat my eyes at Greg and he does them, or I just suck it up and do those as well.
There are plenty of other things that come up when it comes to upkeep around the house, but those are the basic weekly chores that have beautifully, and peacefully fallen into each of our hands. It’s pretty great how this happened because I am a freako about keeping a clean house.
And almost on cue the dryer buzzed….time to fold the laundry!